It’s finally Tuesday morning and we’ve been looking forward to our playdate for a week. Only this morning greets me with three congested, snot-dripping little boys. Sigh.
Not wanting to cancel our playdate, my morning’s thought process went something like this…
“The boys are super congested this morning. Gross. They’re both snotty!”
“Eh… they’re not that bad. They always cough more in the morning to get rid of the congestion they’ve had all night.”
“Wow, that kid sounds miserable. I wonder if we should still have our playdate.”
“Oh good. I think the big boys are done coughing. We’ll be good to play.”
<Insert boy coughing.>
“Oh crap. Another cough. Well, it was just one. We’ll still be okay.”
<Insert baby waking up in his crib. Upon seeing the river of snot flowing down his face with the destination of his mouth…>
“Oh gross! Quick get kleenex! Yuck! Must move faster to get kleenex. Do not let baby eat that!”
“Didn’t I just wipe his nose?! Where did this new snot avalanche come from?!”
“So maybe a playdate isn’t a good idea. Crud. I should really warn her about the germ factory we have going on here. Especially since we managed to get everyone who came to the baby’s 1st birthday party sick.”
“I’ll hold off a couple of minutes. Maybe a magical snot-drying unicorn will come and save us from having to cancel.”
“Never mind. Hello, yellow snot. Awesome. Where’s my phone.”
I’m sorry to say this, but playdates are as much for me as the boys. I could honestly say that I schedule playdates so I can have time with my girlfriends and just leave it at that. (I wish I had a web cam to watch all your heads nodding in agreement!) But I really do enjoy watching my boys interact with other kids. Connor likes to run and laugh and lead the group. Dylan is much more timid. In large group settings, he uses me as his security blanket, often right by my side holding my hand. Other times, he’ll find his own little spot and just watch. His other response is acting out and getting nasty with toys. Ethan, well, he still likes to get in everyone’s personal space and see up-close what each child is playing with. The boys’ interactions with girls and girl toys is especially amusing since dolls or anything pink are like UFOs around our house.
Anyways, this morning, I thought it only fit to share my anecdote and a pros & cons list of a cancelled playdate…
- PRO — I get all the stuff I’ve been meaning to put away, put away.
- PRO — Having guests over has put me into Supermom cleaning mode and the house is now miraculously a dirt-free zone.
- PRO — It’s a good bribery tool to make your kids move quicker and cooperate better. Yes, I am “that mom” who busts out the line, “if you can’t be nice this morning, you’ll have to sit in time out or play in your room by yourself when our friends come over.”
- CON — 3 congested, snotty nosed, coughing kids (Whammy #1) = playdate cancelled (Whammy #2). This double whammy stinks, but is understandable.
- CON — Everyone is bummed we don’t get to see our friends. (Especially mommy!)
- PRO — We now have a clean house! I know, I know… repetitive, but come on… what mom doesn’t get excited about having a clean house?!
- PRO/CON — We have an empty agenda for the morning. What should we do?
Since we typically go to the YMCA for a couple of hours every morning, having a day at home is a welcome change. The boys are playing nicely (well, mostly nicely) on their own. So while I would love to retreat to a bubble bath with a glass of wine (yes, it is still morning here. No judging!), I guess it means mommy works on the to-do list items that always gets pushed off until tomorrow and maybe a longer craft/activity time with the boys.
This post is dedicated to my dear friend, Shannon, and her sweet kids. We miss you!