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Confession: I’m a little bit of a rebel at heart. I don’t like being told not to do something.
For instance, I try to remind myself to watch what I say… NO SWEARS. What ends up happening? I go into a full fledge swearing rampage that it makes a sailor look like Shirley Temple.
Or when I’ve torn my closet apart trying to come up with an outfit that “hides” the bulges and I decide its finally time to lose some weight… I curl up with an oversized glass of wine and scour the internet for diets that don’t tell me that drinking is bad and that I’ll never be able to eat cheesecake again. As I’m sure you can imagine, I haven’t exactly been successful.
So when New Year’s Eve rolls around and I’m clinking glasses and exchanging wishes for a Happy New Year with friends, I am filled with shiny, glittery ideas of all the amazing things the upcoming year will reveal.
But within weeks or even days, when the leftover platter of cheesecake is screaming my name, I begin to realize that change really sucks. It’s hard. And thinking about an entire list of things and behaviors I’m resolving not to continue sucks even more.
And the rebel in me starts to act out!
Cheesecake… get in my belly. Who’s to tell me I can’t eat this creamy, chocolate, melt-in-your-mouth, raspberry and chocolate drizzled deliciousness? I’ll get back to that diet thing tomorrow.
And just like that, my resolve has resolved!
So, what’s the skinny on having successful New Year’s Resolutions? FOCUS.
Focus will either take you up or down. My feisty little rebellious side, sulking about all the things I must give up or that I’m afraid I’ll miss out on, has kept me focused on all the wrong things. Concentrating on what you want to change, will only keep your mind focused on that very thing.
Hence why when I try not to use swears, I end up saying things I should be sucking on a bar of soap for. Or when I want to stop yelling at my boys, to be calmer and nicer, not so angry or harsh… I focus so stinkin’ hard on not being this way that I stress myself out. Instead of focusing on how I could practice positive parenting, I’m concentrating on what not to do, and end up exploding.
What do you suppose would happen if I took a different approach to the changes I’d like to make during the coming year? What would happen if YOU focused on the reason WHY you want something, rather than focusing on the behavior or habit you want to change?
This year my keyword is… FOCUS
Just as 20/20 is the goal of every optometrist for their patients to be able to see clearly and focus well… 2020 is the year to focus on what really matters to you!
What do you want to see happen this year?
What do you want to focus your time and energy on?
So here’s another confession: I’m really hard on myself about my weight and body.
And what I mean is say some pretty ugly things to and about myself that I would never allow someone else to say about me.
“Why am I so fat?”
“I look disgusting!”
“None of my clothes fit because I keep getting fatter and fatter!”
It’s no surprise that my weight keeps going up with the way I sabotage myself. I’m causing myself to be unhappy by the negative self-talk going on in my head. Comfort foods and a cocktail may make a girl feel better in the moment, but in all truth, it just feeds the vicious crazy cycle that spins food and self-esteem into a bigger mess than a blender without a lid.
Unfortunately, the mess isn’t just internal. It spills all over onto my family. What does it say to my children when they see their role model, their mother, cutting herself down? Does it undermine how they see me as well?
You’re probably asking yourself how this ties into New Year’s Resolutions.
With the help of the “This Year I Will” printable, I have learned to turn my focus into goal-forward actionable steps in most other areas of my life except weight loss.
But I’ve decided this is the year that I’m going to FOCUS on my WHY behind wanting to lose weight.
- I want to feel better about me when I look in the mirror.
- I want my brain and my energy level and my body to feel like they belong together.
- I want to feel better physically. No more aches and inflammation because of not taking care of and listening to my body.
- I want to be able to go running with my husband and boys and to be active with them, not out of breath and hurting.
My focus this year is on taking back my body. And I have partnered with Noom to do just that.
I need to have a plan, but without feeling confined. Noom does that for me.
I need to have someone nudging me, “Hey Alisha… it’s time to fill in your food journal.” And I need it to be easy. Noom does that.
I need someone to tell me that I’m not alone in my struggle with food and walk me through how to get out of my own way. Noom does that too!
Noom uses psychology-based techniques to help their clients create healthier habits, reduce their risk of chronic health problems, reverse disease, and foster healthier relationships with themselves in the process.
I started with Noom back in May. A girlfriend of mine was raving about how great it was, so I nonchalantly thought “yah, I guess I’ll try it.”
I gotta tell you, it was like NOOM could read my mind and helping me admit where my food struggles lay. It was captivating and comical and motivational all in one! But with summer coming up and all the social events on our calendar, the rebel in me didn’t want to miss out and so I kinda sorta did my own thing.
Noom never told me what I could or could not eat. They just helped me make healthier choices. And never gave up on me. So it is thanks to Noom, I am able to view my eating habits differently have decided that my 2020 focus is treating my body like a powerhouse!
I’m not going to diet. I’m going to choose to fuel my body well.
I’m not going to try to build muscle. I’m going to exercise and strengthen the muscles I have so that my body functions well and keeps me active with my family.
There are at least 11 reasons why I go to the gym, but I’m not going just to workout and lose weight. I’m going so that I can de-stress and gain mental clarity.
Want to join me?
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Girl. I gotta tell you! THIS is our year. No matter what your 2020 resolutions are, no matter what resources you use to get there, no matter how long it takes you… just remember to focus on what you want and you’ll already be half way there!
YOU’VE GOT THIS!
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